Going to party every weekend night, hanging out at a cafe with friends on Friday evening and playing sports at school. Those are how most people portray youngster in US, in fact that is the reverse of how I spent my teenage year with millions other in the world. Reading books, drinking tea and listening to music are more accurate description of how I spent my time. Of course there is no correct or wrong way to both approach, however it seems to me that the society is more accepting to outgoing people rather than what some would say “freak” who loves to spent time by themselves.
Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean lonely, for many people (I) prefer to define it as solitude. Being in solitude is a very peaceful way to live, to rely on oneself and see the external world as it is instead of what is should be according to him/her. The external world we live in is changing rapidly with development of technology, communication media, automation of system, etc. The ever connected world, supported by the internet, has change he way people live, the way my family live, and the way I live. People are supported to live more outward and express themselves through medias and those who don’t often seen as left behind by the society.
There were time, I believe, when hanging out with friends and family are dominated with thoughtful conversation and idea, talking about fundamental values of life and innovative way for enhancement of people’s quality of life. And I believe that such conversations are important in shaping the thoughts of young people and how they see the world. Young people living in war zone tend to grow as an adult who see the world as dangerous place to live, young people living in poverty (about half of world population live in third world countries) will grow as an adult seeing the world lacking of resources. Both condition are not the best situation to grow up and develop a positive mindset toward oneself and the world as general.
As a person who doesn’t have many friends in high school, I observed lots of people around me and truth to be told, there is much to learn from every one of them. The insecurity of teenagers, trying to find acceptance of how they look and interact with each other, the need to have the latest gadget to show superiority, the attraction of beauty and wealth are among many things I find interesting back then. Being an introvert has it’s up and down, in the beginning of my realisation as introvert, most of my thoughts are about how disadvantaged an introvert is living in the current generation.
People today are less respectful to each other and tend to listen those with loud voice, not those with reasonable idea. Just as I tried to trust people, I find reason for me not to. It could be the way they treat other people, the way they talk, or simply due to the fact that they have no plan of the future, which bother me a lot. The external world however, is something beyond our personal control and it would only frustrate us if we try to change the world as we want it. The only change we can do is changing our perception of how the world looks to ourselves.
The internal pre-condition of our mind starts as soon as we were born, the touch and affection we got when we grew up, the situation surrounding and the feedbacks we got from the society shape the way we think today. Unfortunately, it is not easy, but it is possible to change our perception of the world. Changing our perception starts right from where we are today, it starts from ourselves and then we extend it to family, friends, and strangers. Changing our perception may lead us to a more peaceful way of living and be self-reliant instead of surrendering to the world as if we couldn’t decide our own fate.
You know what’s great? Once you start not caring about the external environment and be self-reliant, there’s a stream of liberating thoughts that make us believe that we are capable of doing and being anything we want, if we put enough effort and time on it.