When I was a child, I have a thought that I could change everything I want to change, be whoever I want to be, and do anything I could possibly do. It was an optimist way of viewing life. I do still try to have that perspective today, with obstacles along the way. And I still believe the phrase “you can be anything you want”, but there are challenges, problem which we all have to acknowledge that not everybody have a nurturing condition to grow.
We have to understand that our past experience does take a significant role in determining who we are today. Abusive children usually grow into adults with abusive mindset, a thought that they can control people less powerful than they are. The same goes to drug addict, which lead into criminal act for sustaining their ‘needs’. Now I understand why people couldn’t think positive, why criminals do bad thing, why people could say life is a struggle when I thought the opposite. Perhaps everything we encounter have a hidden message behind it, to teach us something about life, to enrich us with wisdom, knowledge, and skills in coping with everyday obstacles.
Few bad people changed though, some of them had a revelation and turn their life 180 degree. They even become more nice and do goodness more than ordinary does. But some bad people will never change, no matter how hard we try to reach them. Yes, there are bad people turn into “good” one, but the motive is not always good. They could pretend so people around them think they are actually a nice guy having a bad life. But really, some bad people will never change. They’ll nag your life, ruined it even become a parasite.
One thing I know for sure is we can’t change people, we can’t change condition and problem we have, but we can leave it behind. Start a new life, new friends, new surroundings, no old acquaintances, fresh landscape, a job we love, how nice it would be if everyone could live such life. But couldn’t we just leave it all and start a new life? Perhaps we are too weak to do it, not weak of physical health, but a weak of mental health and esteem, a belief that we can pass everything life thrown to us.
