“If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.”
I often hear people complaining about their too busy schedule and exhausting work they have to do everyday. I’m sure every of us living in a big city like New York, Tokyo, London, and my city, Jakarta have heard people saying things like:
“I wish I had 48 hours a day”
“Oh no, I don’t have time to deal with this”
“I might as well work all night long”
“I wish I had the time to practice my hobby”
“If only my children could grow up faster”
“I’m too busy these day, I never have time for myself”
They seems exhausted by the things they did today and they have to do next, most of them would rush from one task to another, thinking if they could rest after they finished it all. Sadly, it rarely does. Another project coming up, another task to do, children to nurture, and countless “things to do next” lining up on our notebook. It would be a mistake to think that if they fasten working tempo, they would save more time to do things they love.
The essence of my post is not to teach how to be more productive, efficient, and effective (although I’m competent to teach about it) but I’m trying to enlightened my readers to have a paradigm about time and tasks. Time is limited, we were given only twenty four hours a day, seven days a week, and fifty two weeks a year. And only God knows how many years we have left. We couldn’t change the amount of time we had daily, but we do have the freedom to choose tasks we do. We could say “no” to tasks we have no interest in doing, cut the amount of “doing random things that leads nowhere”, and prioritizing our activities.
“Things to do” list on my notebook never goes empty, for every task I finished and crossed from the list, I would write another task shortly. Not because I didn’t write the new task there earlier on purpose, but because it just came to my attention at the time. It became a pain for me earlier, as a human being trying to enhance quality of my life at many different aspect, I always had a project in mind. Although those project are contributing to my long-term happiness and meaning in life, sometimes I would feel bad for not finishing it at the time table I made earlier.
One true phrase I’m quoting today is:
If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse”
It all roots in priority we have, when we say that our family is our priority, we would make time for them no matter what. Yes, a man may need to work to give a decent living condition for his family, but leaving a legacy to his children is more important than trying to strive for the next promotion. Even if people are given 48 hours a day, we would still complain we have more. The man problem is not in having a limited time but rather in having priority in life.
Just like a car needs gas to run, we need to have time for nurturing our well-being. We need to reflect on life and what we want out of it, to make sure we won’t regret our priority in our death bed. And what about doing all the things my Boss ask me to do? Well, I would answer it this way, “If you submit it all today, what is the probability of your Boss giving you a one month holiday instead of giving you another pile of task?” I think what we can do about it is to do it the best we can, in the time we have allotted for it, and stop trying to rush finishing it all.