Frame of Mind: Observing and Ending Anger Instantly

Have you ever asked yourselves, why do we feel angry? It turned out most of the time we are angry, it’s caused by our injured ego by other people and ourselves (yes, we could be angry with ourselves). When people humiliate you, or disappoint you with their false promises, you felt injured. You feel they are not respecting you and it’s wrong to treat you that way. Anger is an emotion that arises when our ego or identity is being questioned or offended, but beneath the anger there is something more fundamental going on, a sense of lacking inside us. We feel inferior and undeserving of others, and when other people trying to take the sense of worth that’s left inside us, we are tries to defend it at all cost. Then we call it anger.

The good thing is we could manage anger easily, perhaps you have read this before, but let me repeat it again, “observe the anger arises inside you” and the anger itself will cease away. By practicing meditation and mindfulness we could observe any feeling we are having and act on it the way we want to instead of being controlled by our feelings. The key is using the time between trigger (our emotion) and impact (what we want to do with the feeling), that way we take control of our feelings, and in turn, life.



About agent909

Kevin Yulianto is a private trader and equity portfolio manager with over 4 years of experience. He was born in Jakarta at July 18th 1994, graduated with Bachelor of Medicine Degree from Atma Jaya Catholic University of Indonesia in 2015 and is expected to receive Master of Management Degree from Binus Business School in 2017. Currently he is pursuing his professional certification in the CFA and FRM program, in which he passed level 1 for both program in 2016. Kevin is an avid traveler and photographer, with a record of 32 countries visited in 2016. He is a freelance contributor at Getty Image and is running two website in his spare time, and
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