Have you ever asked yourselves, why do we feel angry? It turned out most of the time we are angry, it’s caused by our injured ego by other people and ourselves (yes, we could be angry with ourselves). When people humiliate you, or disappoint you with their false promises, you felt injured. You feel they are not respecting you and it’s wrong to treat you that way. Anger is an emotion that arises when our ego or identity is being questioned or offended, but beneath the anger there is something more fundamental going on, a sense of lacking inside us. We feel inferior and undeserving of others, and when other people trying to take the sense of worth that’s left inside us, we are tries to defend it at all cost. Then we call it anger.
The good thing is we could manage anger easily, perhaps you have read this before, but let me repeat it again, “observe the anger arises inside you” and the anger itself will cease away. By practicing meditation and mindfulness we could observe any feeling we are having and act on it the way we want to instead of being controlled by our feelings. The key is using the time between trigger (our emotion) and impact (what we want to do with the feeling), that way we take control of our feelings, and in turn, life.