As a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up? How close or far are you from that vision?
I think we all had the same idea that growing up would be fun, being able to go anywhere we go without parents supervision, late night party, and being treated like an adult. When I was a kid I want to earn my own money and spend it on buying toys I want, but unfortunately I didn’t earn any money until I lost my interest in toys. I also wanted to grow up so I could hangout with my friends more than I did, now I realized that I actually prefer being alone in my home. There are things I thought I could do more freely when I grow up, but I never questioned myself why I really want to grow up?
Growing up is identical with being independent, taking responsibilities, work our ass to meet daily needs (food, shelter, clothes, bills) and most of us do so. How long have you been working daily? Since 25? 30? Is this the life you imagine you would have when you were teen?
I believe most of us has drifted from our goals when we were teen, and I don’t want to sound naive by saying we don’t have to. We do have to work to earn money, meet our family’s need, pension fund, and other bills coming every month. When we were young, we do choose our path, each in our way. Most of us tricked ourselves by thinking pursuing job with the highest salary will bring happiness. More money means more goods that brings happiness, right?
Happiness doesn’t merely come from luxury goods, foods, or a fine tea in the evening ( i questioned the last one). What research tells us is happiness do comes from money we spend on buying experience. Travel is one of them, but not everyone is passionate in travelling. Quality time with someone we care about is more realistic to be applied in some people’s life.
Apart from our (or perhaps only mine) goals doesn’t mean we are stucked with it forever, we could change it, but would we?
Naahhh, we are way too comfortable with our life now that we don’t want to change it, not knowing that the other path may bring more happiness and meaning in life. Instead we are afraid of losing what we already have.
Just a thought… and a friendly reminder