Key Points from Book: Quiet

A manifesto for introverts:
There’s a word for people who are in their heads too much: thinkers
Solitude is a catalyst for innovation
The next generation of quiet kids can and must be raised ro know their own strengths
Sometimes it helps to be a pretend extrovert. There will always be time to be quiet later
But in the longrun, staying true to your temperament is key to finding work you love and work that matters
One genuine new relationship is worth a fistful of business cards
It’s ok to cross the street to avoid making small talk
Quiet leadership is not an oxymoron
Love is essential. Gregariousness is optional
In a gentle way, you can shake the world

There comes a time that people get tired of being trampled over by the iron feet of oppression-Martin luther king jr.

Talkative people are rated as smarter, better looking, more interesting, and more desirable as friends

Introverts are drawn to the inner world of thought and feeling, extroverts to the external life of people and activities

Many introverts are shy, partly as a result of receiving the message that there’s something wrong with their preference for reflection

People who pass us on the street can’t know that we ade clever and charming unless we look it

All around you people are judging you silently

Men who were too quiet around women risked being thought as gay

World travelers were more extroverted than those who stayed home

You don’t have to be extrovert to feel alive

Speak with conviction. Even if you believe something only fifty five percent, say it as if you believe it a hundred percent

When the less vocal people put out ideas, those idead were discarded

We perceived talkers as smarter than quiet types, even though grade point averages and intelligence test scores reveal this perception ti be incaccurate

It also helps to speak fast, we rate quick talkers as more capable and appealing than slow talkers

The bus to abilene anecdote reveals our tendency to follow thise who initiate action

Those considered charismatic by their top executives had bigger salaries but not better corporate performance

We need leaders who build not their own egos but the institutions they run

Extroverted leaders enhance group performance when employees are passive, but that introverted leadsrs are more effective with proactive employees

I have a role to play, but I fundamentally am a loner

Work alone. You are going to be best able to design revolutionary products and features if you are working on your own. Not on a committee. Not on a team

Introverts prefer to work independently, and solitude can be a catalyst fo innovation

Serious study alone time is the strongest predictor of performance

When you practice deliberately, you identify the tasks or knowledge thst are just out of your reach, strive to upgrade your performance, monitor your progress, and revise accordingly

The simple act of being interrupted is one of the biggest barriers to productivity

That is why one can never be alone enough shen one writes, why there can never be enough silence around one when one writes, why even night is not night enough

Performance gets worse as group size oncreases

The fear of judgement runs much deeper and has more far reaching implications than we ever imagined

Peer pressure is not only unpleasant, but can actually change your view of a problem

Face to face interactions create trust in a way that online interactions can’t

The mere presence if other people helped my mind to make associative leaps

We have free will and can use it to shape our personalities

Understanding your sweet spot can increase your satisfaction in every arena of your life, but it goes even further than that

The highly sensitive tend to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than materialistic or hedonistic

Functional, moderate guilt may promote future altruism, personal responsibility, adaptive behavior in school, and harmonious, competent, and prosocial relationships with parents, teachers, and friends

Sensitive people tend to speak softly because that’s how they prefer others to communicate with them

A reward sensitive person is highly motivated to seek rewards

The introverts are much better at making a plan, staying with plan, being very disciplined

When it comes times to make group decisions, extroverts would do well to listen ro introverts, especially when they see problems ahead

The highest performing traders tended to be emotionally stable introverts

Introverts are geared to inspect, and extroverts geared to respond

Introverts think before they act, digest information thouroughly, stay on task longer, give up less easily, and work more accurately

It’s not that i’m so smart, it’s that I stay with problems longer -Einstein

Train yourself to spend energy on what’s truly meaningful to you instead if on activities thst look like they’ll deliver a quick buzz of money or status or excitement

Extroverts tend to be reward seeking, but every human being has her own mix of approach and avoidencd tendencies, and sometimes the combination differs depending on the situation

The key to flow is to pursue an activity for its own sake, not for the rewards it brings

Once you have ordinary intelligence what you need is the temperament to control the urges that get other people into trouble in investing

The Americans emphasize sociability and prize those attributes that make for easy, cheerful association. The Chinese emphasize deeper attributes, focusing on moral virtues and achievement

Excellent students seem not only to possess the cognitive ability to solve math and science problems, but also to have a useful personality characteristic: quiet persistance

A man has many social selves as there are distinct groups of persons about whose opinion he cares. He generally shows a different side of himself to each of these different groups

Introverts are capable of acting like extroverts fir the sake of work they consider important, people they love, or anything they value highly

I was the nicest person you’d ever know, but the world wasn’t that way. The problem was that if you were just a nice person, you’d get crushed

Self monitors are highly skilled at modifying their behavior to the social demands of a situation

Venting doesn’t soothe anger, it fuels it

Introverts were better decoders (of people action) than extroverts

People buy things because they feel understood

Introverts often have one or two deep interests that are not necessarily shared bupy their peers

Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center, so we lost our center and have to find it again- Anais Nin

Whoever you are, bear in mind that appearance is not reality. Some people act like extroverts, but the effort costs them in energy, authenticity, and even physical death


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2 Responses to Key Points from Book: Quiet

  1. “It’s ok to cross the street to avoid making small talk” I’ve totally done that.

    These are also true for me:
    When the less vocal people put out ideas, those ideas were discarded.
    The introverts are much better at making a plan, staying with plan, being very disciplined.
    Introverts think before they act, digest information thoroughly, stay on task longer, give up less easily, and work more accurately.

    And I like these:
    Quiet leadership is not an oxymoron.
    Love is essential. Gregariousness is optional.
    You don’t have to be extrovert to feel alive.

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