Modern Families -The Underlying Cause of Family Issue

If one of your late ancestors were to come back from the dead and join you for dinner, what things about your family would this person find the most shocking?

The answer to this question is….. I DON’T KNOW! Really, I think long enough and nothing really is shocking about our modern families, what happened in the past happens today, and most, if not all that happen today happened also in the past. There’s very few problems or change that happened in the last century, the most profound change I could think of is slavery, now as it is prohibited, most household will have an independent servant instead of slave.

But speaking of families characteristic in general, things happens the same, divorce happens now as it had in the past (but it is increasing at a fast rate), trouble children, education issues, career change, literally everything we counter every day. We all have family problem, whether it is financial issue, bad relationship, miscommunication, etc. Do you know why we all had this problems?

That’s because we don’t have a good, linear, straight communication. Yes, communication is the underlying issue in most problem we had in family. Many spouse didn’t have a good communication starting their marriage, they think when they are holding a negative thought about their partner, it is better for their relationship. But it couldn’t get more wrong! When those little thought accumulate, added by a present issue, all of those thought are going to erupt! And that’s where the disaster begin.

Think of communication as a highway, connecting cities and countries, when the highway is blocked, or no one want to use the highway, supplies are going to be scarce, no one take care of the road, and many junk will accumulate. It will eventually be harder to use the highway again.

My point is, I (and other psychologist perhaps) think it is better to talk small issue with your partner rather than letting them pissed you off with those small-daily activities. Don’t like your husband new haircut? Talk to him about it!



About agent909

Kevin Yulianto is a private trader and equity portfolio manager with over 4 years of experience. He was born in Jakarta at July 18th 1994, graduated with Bachelor of Medicine Degree from Atma Jaya Catholic University of Indonesia in 2015 and is expected to receive Master of Management Degree from Binus Business School in 2017. Currently he is pursuing his professional certification in the CFA and FRM program, in which he passed level 1 for both program in 2016. Kevin is an avid traveler and photographer, with a record of 32 countries visited in 2016. He is a freelance contributor at Getty Image and is running two website in his spare time, and
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