What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you a year (or five, or ten…) ago?
I wished somebody told me 4 years ago this phrase:
“It doesn’t matter what people say about you, it doesn’t matter what people expect from you. All that matters is that you are doing what you believe is right and fulfill your own expectation’
Think of yourself in your end stage of life, sitting on a sofa you bought 30 years ago alone. You think back how you got into such situation, many of your friends are dead, your parents too, and your kids live in another country. Basically you are alone but you are able to do your daily activities, you might reflect your experience in the past, how it shaped you to who you are now, tephe mistakes you did, the choice you wish you has taken.
The other way of living you didn’t take when you were young, that’s our choice. We could have leave all of our belongings now and travel peniless to other country and I believe we would still be alive next year, we will adapt, perhaps even find a job and family there. Or as other ‘rational’ people do, we could stay at college, find a high paying job, have a family where you live now and get old there. There’s really nothing wrong if that is what we want, but if it is not, then we might just waste our time and life.
Often times, we are not pursuing what’s really matter to us, we are pursuing what we think matter to us in the eye of society. Our perspective narrowed to how people think about us, and how it is more important than what we think of ourselves.
Do you have regrets? Will you have another regret for living another day the way you live now? Nobody could answer this question for you, but yourself.