Do you find it easy to make new friends? Tell us how you’ve mastered the art of befriending a new person.
As my post before explained, it’s not easy for me to make a new friends, specially under new environment. I tend to be silent in stranger’s land and observing what people do and try to learn their behavior pattern (like how they themselves introduced to new person, what are they talking as an open liner, their gesture and speaking tone), then I’ll copy their method in making friends. As an introvert since childhood I prefer others to approach me first and open the small talk with me, then I’ll try to keep up with them.
Or at least, that’s how I made friends so far in high school and in college. But now I felt more confident in new places, because I learn that the others are nervous as well! It makes me more comfortable knowing that other people may think the same-awkward-anxious thought as I do. So rather than complicating myself as I used to do in new places, I fake my confidence and introduce myself to the other appropriately. And it works! People greet me warmly and actually said they are more comfortable being approach as well. How relaxing it is to me!
So the next time you and I are placed in a new environment, think positively that other people want to know you, fake your confidence and walk straight, introduce yourself without stuttering and open the talk with topic that may interest them! Remember to listen more than you talk, and asking about their life will brings new topic to talk about, everybody loves to talk about themselves.