Key Points from Book: The Psychology of Winning

The fact that we, literally, become what we think about most of the time

It behooves all of us concerned with the value of time to relish it, to savor every moment as though it were a vintage wine or a double rainbow

Not aptitude, attitude is the criterion for success

Laziness, to be sure, is one mental block

Positive self awareness is open mindedness

Positive slef awareness is realizing that each human being on earth is a person with equal rights to fulfill his or her own potential in life

Empathy is the ability to walk in another Indian’s mochasins for a mile before passing judgement

What is certain that we need to understand what being human is…. And that is a changing, growing, imperfect, but amazing living creation

Winners develop mental toughness, which we commonly refer to as strength of character

Adaptibility is the key. By anticipating ghe probable action of others through e,pathy and by remaining open and flexible, we will not allow others to ruin our days witht heir bad days, to rain on our parades

Positive self awareness is realizing that a person who does not read is no better than the person who cannot read, and that person who does not continue to learn, to adapt and grow, is no better than one who cannot grow

Winners say, “I know who I am, where I’m coming from and where I’m going”

Action for more positive self awareness:
Schedule a comprehensice annual check up
Be more curious about everything in your world
Break daily and weekly routine
Make a list of your I’ am
Look at yourself through other people’s eyes
Look at yourself through your own eyes objectively
Take 30 minutes each day for you alone
Look for the truth and speak the truth
Be aware of the children and the elderly
Be empathic

Winners learn ti understand that self development is a lifetime program

Base more of our actions and decisions on rational thinking rather than on emotions

Important aspect of self esteem is self acceptance, the willingness to be oneself and live one’s life as it is unfolding, accepting all responsibility for the ultimate outcome

Every waking moment we must feed our subconcious self images positive thoughts about ourselves and our performances, so relentlessly and vividly that our self images are in time modified to conform to the new, higher standards

Wimners has accepted his own uniqueness, feels comfortable with his image, and is willing that other’s know and accept him just as he is

The people who matter don’t mind, and the people who mind… Don’t matter

Action for more positive self esteem:
Dress and look your best at all times
Volunteer your own name first
Take inventory of your good reasons for self esteem today
Respond with simple, courteous thank you
Sit up in the most prominent rows when attending event
Walk more erectly and authoratively in public
Set your own standards
Use encouraging, affirmative languange
Keep a self development plan ongoing at all times
Smile

Winners take full responsibility for determining their actions in their own lives

Although our innate characteristics and environments are given to us initially, the decisions we make determine whether we win kr lose our particular game of life

People who feel they have to do things usually forfeit many available options and alternatives and lose control of their lives in the bargain

Winning individuals do not leave the development of their potential to chance

Without individual self control and responsibility there can be no enduring liberty or freedom in our society

I do not choose to be a common man or woman. It is my right to be uncommon if I can

Action for more positive self control:
Take the blame and credit
Use the volition of “I’ve decided to”
Carry the motto “my rewards in life, will reflect my service and contribution”
Learn how to relax mentally and physically
Set a specific time frame each week, preferably each day to initiate action letters and action calls in your own behalf
Action today not tomorrow
Sit down and create your own best horoscope on paper
For the next 30 days, go all out in your current job
Invest in your own knowledge and skill development
Set your alarm a half hour early tomorrow and keave it at the earlier setting

Motivation is a force which moves us to action, and it springs from inside the individual

Two key emotions dominate human motivation with opposite, but equaly effective tesults, fear and desire

Desire is the emotional state between where you are and where you want to be

What a person actually needs is not a tensionless state, but the striving and struggling for a goal that is worthy of him or her

We are thinking what can go wrong with a shot, rather than what should go right

They who have conquered doubt and fesrs have conquered failure

But fear is never a reason for quitting, it is only an excuse

Maurice: my own experience has taught me this. If you wait for the perfect moment when all is safe and assures, it may never arrive. Mountains will not be climbed, races won nor happiness achieved

Success is almost totally dependent upon drive, focus, and persistence

Action for more positive self motivation:
Replace the word can’t with can, try with will
Focus all your attention and energy on the achievement of the objectives you are involved with right now
Make a list of five of your most important current wants or desires
Seek and talk in person this week to someone who currently is doing what you want to do most, and doing it well
For every of your goals make it a habit to repeat ” I want to, I can”
Paint the picture of what the achievement looks like and feels like
Don’t take counsel from your fears
Give solution oriented feedback when people tell you their problems
Concentrate all your energy and intensity, without distraction

Winners expect to win. Luck is the intersection kf preparstion and awareness

They look at life as a very real game, but not as gamble. Three key reasons:
Desire, self control, preparation

Every individual tends to receive wnst he or she expects in the long run

The winning individual know that bad luck is attracted by negstive thinking

Winners are self made, since their positive expectations make them what they are

Action for more positive self expectancy:
Use positive self talk morning to bed time
Find something good in all of your personal relationships
Look at problems as opportunities
Learn to stay relaxed and friendly
Think well of your health
Realize that your daily conversation is the automatic readout of your thoughts and subconcious emotions
Expect the best from other’s too
The best way to remain optimistic is to associate with winners and optimists
Wake up happy

It is not what your are thst holds you back, it’s what you think you are not

Individuals behave, not in accordance with reality, but ina ccordance with their perception of reality

Our self image determines the kind and scope of person we are

The subconcious robot controls the concious judge level of thinking. Action frequently takes place without comsultation with the judge, but no action ever takes place without reference to the robot

Winners dwell on and hold the self image of that person they would most like to become

Action for more positive self image:
Go for a walk on the beach or in the country or park and recall your childhood play
Read a biography
While you relax, visualize your own imagined triumphs
Tske a deep relaxation, meditation, auto suggestion, or a biofeedback training program
Develop the habit of listening to educational and inspirational csssette tapes
Write two page resume of your professional and personal assets

Winenrs are goal and role oriented. They set and get what they want consistently

Winners are people with a definite purpose in life

Victor Frankl: he noticed thst men were able to survive the trials of starvstion and torture when they had a purpose for their existence

Winners in life start with lifetime goals. What do I stand for? What would I defend to the end? What would I want people to say about me after I’m gone?

Clearly defined, written goalss are the tools which make purpose achievable

Action for more positive self direction:
What are your lifetime goals?
What are your priority of goals?
Sit down and draft your financial game plan
For each of your goals, assemble support material
Review your goals with winners
Habits are attitudes which grow from cobwebs into cables thst control your everyday life

Self discipline is telling yourself over and over with words, pictures, concepts, and emotions thst you are winning each important personal victory now

Losing is habit forming and may be dangerous to your mental and physical health

They practice as if they are first even if their challenge is a first for mankind

Actions for more positive self discipline:
Make an appointment to visit unique places
List five unpleasant tasks you have been putting off
Visualize and stimulate your goals
Rehearse important performance
Be relentless and persistence
Discipline your body to relax and relieve stress

Earn the love and respect if other human beings

Winners live a well rounded life. They build their spheres of relationships with evenly distributed emphasis

Be aware of the value of time, which once spent, is gone from their lives forever

Winners understand the mortality of their bodies and are able to sge gracefully as result

Actions for more positive self dimension:
How do I fit in my community?
Treat people more like brothers and sisters
Pay value to your spouse
Tell a person how much he means to you
Spend time listening to and giving encouragement to an elder
Make a contribution to something there is no obligation

Success formula:
Conceive and believe = achieve
Visualize and internalize = realize
Imagination and simulation = realization

Winners maupy not always be able to buy thr most rxpensive things, but they always do the very best with what they can afford

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About agent909

Kevin Yulianto is a private trader and equity portfolio manager with over 4 years of experience. He was born in Jakarta at July 18th 1994, graduated with Bachelor of Medicine Degree from Atma Jaya Catholic University of Indonesia in 2015 and is expected to receive Master of Management Degree from Binus Business School in 2017. Currently he is pursuing his professional certification in the CFA and FRM program, in which he passed level 1 for both program in 2016. Kevin is an avid traveler and photographer, with a record of 32 countries visited in 2016. He is a freelance contributor at Getty Image and is running two website in his spare time, journeyman.live and idxstockwatch.wordpress.com.
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